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By: twenty(or)something » Blog Archive » Never Stop Believing (Part I)

twenty(or)something » Blog Archive » Never Stop Believing (Part I) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:00:53 +0000

[...] it. Life circumstances? Could be. Job search frustrations? Of course. Wanting everything so much, pushing myself so hard? That could do [...]

By: Clara Moreno

Clara Moreno — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 08:03:58 +0000

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By: twenty(or)something » Blog Archive » Where Do I Go From Here

twenty(or)something » Blog Archive » Where Do I Go From Here — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 11:07:32 +0000

[...] part-time freelance career, and I was back to volunteering with the animals, while still trying to maintain connections, keep up with these blogs which have been, truly, my saving grace, and continue to work on my [...]

By: Elisa

Elisa — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 16:12:17 +0000

The difficult thing that happens when you start to compare yourself to others is that you will never “measure up.” The circumstances of their lives are different, their personalities/limitations/expectations are different, they are different people. And frequently they are not as open and raw and honest about their lives as a whole.

It’s like the girl in high school that you thought had it ALL but in reality she was miserable and living a fake existence. You are just starting to get back into a routine that may have been familiar and feels the same but it’s not. Cause like those others we all look at YOU are different now. You conquered France on your own, girl! A few deadlines, some research, writing projects…they are NOTHING compared to what you’ve done, what you’ve learned about yourself and the person you’ve become.

It’ll be an adjustment to figure out how to do it differently when it feels so much the same and rudimentary. But truly, that’s how people sustain and flourish. It might be the same, but they find ways to look at it differently. I just watched this on Scrubs (effing love that show, BTW) while I was commenting, made me smile: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GcsrnT7Tv1o

By: Susan Pogorzelski - admin

Susan Pogorzelski - admin — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 14:27:10 +0000

Akirah: I think you’re right. I think a part of the reason why we like to do things so much for people is because it has a direct impact on us — helping others helps us feel good. But then you wonder, at what cost to ourselves? Maybe being there for yourself and helping yourself first is the key to all of it. I don’t know, I don’t have any answers. Honestly, just a whole lot more questions. You’re absolutely right, though — self-care is important. I hope to remember that. More importantly, I hope to listen to it. Thanks for your comment, Akirah!

Akhila: I love everything you say in your comment because all of it rings true. I think part of the problem is that I do my best, but I never think that’s enough. And so, by my own fault, I put so much pressure on myself that I push myself harder, then becoming overwhelmed, thus neglecting my own well-being. You say that we live in a society where this level of ambition and hard work is normal, and I think that brings up an interesting point, to say the least. While it’s a good trait, it makes you wonder how damaging it could also be. Interesting thoughts, Akhila, that I’d love to think about some more for another post. Thanks for the comments.